By David DeAngelo
What should a guy do if he likes a girl at the office?
Don't date your close neighbors, don't date anyone related to a close friend, and don't dip your pen in the company ink. All of these are very likely to wind up being bad long-term investments.
Better idea: Tease and use all of your best cocky/funny ideas on this girl... great target practice. At some point, one of you will probably no longer work for the same company, and at that point, she will like you so much that you will have fish in a barrel for the shooting.
Women can be very flaky. Is it a good idea to call to confirm before you pick a woman up for a date?
You know, it's been so many years since I've gone to a woman's house to pick her up for a first date, I can't even remember.
I recommend that you do not do something expensive and typical like picking a woman up, taking her to dinner, etc. for a first date.
- Have her come to your place, and leave for a cup of tea from there.
- Meet her at a coffee shop that's close to your place, and if she flakes out, you can still enjoy yourself and you're not far from home.
Another rule of thumb I have is to not make a date too far in advance. I've found that oftentimes, you can call a woman up and say, "Let's go get a cup of coffee right now."
It's rare that I would ever make plans more than a day in advance... this also helps prevent flakiness.
Find out why women like bad boys and what you can learn from them, and whether you should "practice" your approach on regular women...
They say that women are attracted to "bad boys." But it seems that "bad boys" often lose their composure and act out on their anger... why is that attractive?
This is a fantastic question. Let's talk about Bad Boys.
I personally believe that women are attracted to Bad Boys on an "unconscious" level.
You'll have to get my Advanced Series if you want a full explanation. It takes hours. But the point is that Bad Boys have aspects to their personalities that women find sexy.
Unfortunately, Bad Boys are often abusive as well. I don't like abuse, and I don't like to be abusive. In fact, I dislike mean people and mean behavior more than just about anything.
I may bust balls and tease a lot, but underneath it all, I'm always just teasing, or trying to help.
One of the things that never sat well with me was the idea that I had to do everything that a Bad Boy does in order to have women dig me.
Well, the good news is that I've realized that it's very possible (and can be fun) to take some of the great things that Bad Boys do to attract women, and learn them... without the abuse.
You probably see where I'm going here. Yes, Bad Boys often throw tantrums and "lose their composure." This is true.
But I think that throwing tantrums, yelling at women and being physically abusive to women are all horrible.
On the other hand, keeping your composure is exactly the right way to deal with many situations with women.
When you keep your composure, you actually show that you're even stronger than if you were to get upset. That's very attractive to women.
I mean, if you want to get upset, feel free. But composure is a much better way. Try it, you'll like it.
If a guy only dates ultra-hot women, should he still "practice" by approaching "regular" women?
Sounds like a tough situation to be in. I'd say this...
Approach all the hot ones first. If you run out, then move on to "regular" women for "practice."
I personally practice on just about every woman I meet. Trial and error is a natural part of development. And meeting women is no different.
Just make sure you don't take it personally when something doesn't work out, or if you make a mistake.
Remember; over 3,000 women turn 21 in the U.S. alone every day. If something doesn't work out with one, there will be another... and another...
David DeAngelo is the author of the book Double Your Dating: What Every Man Should Know About How To Be Successful With Women, and several other products that can help men become more successful with women and dating. He also publishes a free online Dating Tips newsletter, available at www.DoubleYourDating.com.